"You don't have any imagination."
Those words, from my late sister-in-law, with all her characteristic lack of tact, ring in my ears years after the incident. (Or maybe that's my tinnitus.) It wasn't particularly offensive to hear her say that. Nor was it surprising, as pretty much everything she said was offensive in one way or another, especially when it was directed at me. No. I think it's stuck with me because someone else was speaking out loud a truth that I've always struggled with.
Still, true but unhelpful comments are just that -- and are perhaps best left unspoken.
Sesame Street's eternally frustrated Don Music. The struggle is real. |
Keyboards make more intuitive sense to me, and I can pick out melody lines from a song with moderate ease on a piano -- but ask me to combine my hands to play chords and bass parts, and it's all over.
Plus, I can read music, but only to the point of counting up to where each note is on the ledger line, noting the key signature, playing that note, and then repeating the entire tedious process for the next note.
My fiction reads like a Wikipedia article. My writing career has focused on journalism and other practical writing pursuits for that very reason. The poetry of good storytelling eludes me. (And poetry is completely outside my wheelhouse.) I can tell you the who, what, where, when, and why of a situation, but only in a dull, direct, informational way. I can type up the report, but I can't paint the picture.
Maybe this is the curse of having an INTP personality. I get lost in obscure theories and abstractions. I analyze things to the point of often being unable to make a decision. I hate rules and traditions that serve no obvious purpose. I question social norms and hate making small talk. I'm the one who always finds the logical inconsistency in everything.
So how do you cultivate a creative mind out of that hot mess?
I love that my wife writes novels and paints as a hobby. I equally love that my kid is obsessed with drawing and wants to play pretend every chance she gets. My wife's friend makes amazing stuff and sells it on Etsy. Another is an ace illustrator. And my wife and kiddo themselves both get creative with clay and other media at an art studio in our town. I wish I had a fraction of their creative ability. Creativity comes naturally to an INFP like my wife, I suppose. It must be nice.
I've disconnected from politics and current events, after realizing that my complaining was having no effect on anyone but me -- and on me, the net effect was negative. With cruddy health and half a dozen other concerns weighing on me, stressing out about the world only served to make me more anxious. I can only control what happens within my own family in my own house -- and even then I don't win every battle, so how could I ever expect to make a difference in the world outside my front door?
Likewise, I've had this blog for nine years, and I'm lucky to have one or two readers per post, which is disheartening when you've spent a lot of time crafting what you think is a good article, including devoting time to research. Heck, not even my thought-out YouTube comments get any likes, while boneheaded comments all around mine get dozens of likes and replies. Maybe I'm really just that socially awkward, to the point of not even being able to speak the same conversational language as most people.
I think there's something broken about me, and I think there always has been. Did the trauma of early childhood physical abuse, and later ongoing emotional abuse, mess me up so much that I just can't function like a normal person? And has that contributed to my lack of imagination? I don't get it. My wife and kiddo enjoy playing Dungeons & Dragons, but I stress out when I have to roleplay and improvise. I want to enjoy going into their world of imagination with them, but I don't know how. I'd also love to play an instrument with even a little competence, or write some good fiction, but my brain just doesn't seem to work that way.
I suppose I'm not completely bereft of creativity. I think I have a good sense of aesthetics, like how to organize furniture in a room or pictures on a wall in a way that's pleasing to the eye. I'm good at music mixes, as I think I have a good ear for what kinds of music flow together and complement each other. (I used to make some darn good mixes on my old tape decks and, later, my much-missed MiniDisc console.) If I had the time and patience for it, I could take systems of rules, extract the things I like best from each, and create a whole new thing with a cohesive system of organization. (Think a new sport, a new instrument, or even a new religion.) I'm good with abstractions and what-ifs that way.
But that also creates real-life frustration, because I can envision something that would be ideal in my head but will probably never come to fruition, and I'm left lamenting that the perfect fill-in-the-blank doesn't exist. Like a six-string guitar that can be tuned in all fifths without having a mushy low string or a high sting that snaps. There's a logic and beauty to fifths tuning, but in the same way that music theory makes perfect sense in my head but doesn't flow out of my fingers, so the six-string guitar I want to play seems to butt heads with simple physics. If Robert Fripp couldn't make all-fifths tuning work, why would I think I can? And yet the ideal in my head lingers and won't go away.
I think I need a music room, where I can take my ever-growing arsenal of instruments and just struggle to make whatever pleasing sounds I'm able to. My best buddy and I did something similar when we were kids, playing with drum machines, crappy little Casio keyboards, old beat-up acoustic guitars, and our own voices and imaginations. We were awful, but we enjoyed ourselves, and we always made our audience-of-us happy.
Not everybody can be creative in the conventional sense, I suppose. I just crave an outlet. It's hard to get through life without one.
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