Saturday, October 19, 2024

Misadventures in Fiction: The Tunnel in the Back Yard

Now that my 13-year-old has acquired the bug for fiction writing from my wife, we've taken to participating in a complete-the-story exercise as a family. This is a tough assignment for me, as fiction writing is not my strength. I'm good at nonfiction. Making stuff up? Not so much. But I decided to give it a try anyway. 

The story prompt came from And Then..., an activity box that offers 20 different story-starter cards. It's designed for kids, and we bought it more or less for our homeschooling purposes. But anyone interested in writing a story might find using its prompts a fun exercise. 

After thinking too much about where to post this, I decided I might as well just put it here on my blog. The story prompt makes up the first few sentences, and the tale spins out from there. It takes a while to get going because I literally made it up as I went, with no clue what the point of the story should be or how it should end. Once I had the story idea in place, I could have gone back and tightened things up. But I thought I might as well leave it as is. 

The Chair

One

“Can you come over after dinner?” Lesley asked on the phone. “It’s really important. I have to show you something you’re never going to believe.”

“Sure thing,” I said. And I rushed through my plate of spaghetti, because Lesley is always great for adventures.

I walked across the street and knocked on the door. Lesley answered, breathless, and pulled me by the arm, through the house, out the back door, and into the yard. When we reached the lilac bushes at the edge of the yard, we got onto our hands and knees and pushed through the low branches. I got blasted with the smell of all the flowers and started sneezing. Stupid allergies.

Lesley pushed aside a board, and a tunnel appeared in the ground, with light shining out and steps leading down.

I looked down. “What the heck?”

“Come on!” Lesley said, hopping in. So I followed, even though, now that I saw it, I wasn’t sure I wanted to. At the very least, I should have changed out of my school clothes and into something more suited for, well, dirt. But it was too late for that now. I’d just have to listen to Mom telling me I should have changed out of my nice clothes first. Lesley always thinks I overdress for school, with my ironed button-downs and my pleated pants. But that’s just how I like to express myself. I’m as neat and planned as she is a go-with-the-flow kind of person. I actually like that about her. It’s just not my way of doing things.   

With my clean-for-the-moment Hush Puppies, I put my weight down on the first step. It creaked and wiggled under my feet. Yeesh. Maybe this wasn’t such a good idea.

I stood there for a minute trying to get my footing. Then I looked back up to see the inviting safety of Lesley’s back yard, still lit up by the early evening summer sun. Maybe we could just hang out and play catch or something.

But no, that wasn’t going to happen, because Lesley was already at the bottom of the stairs. She would have disappeared into the tunnel without me, except she obviously realized I wasn’t right behind her. She looked up at me and started waving me down impatiently.

“C’mon, Ding-Dong. What are you waiting for?”

Ugh. I hate when she calls me that. But I can’t just stand up here and let her think I’m scared to go where some girl marches in without a care.

“Oh, uh, nothing,” I lied. “I’m right behind you.”

“Clearly, you’re not. Now come on.” And she vanished into the tunnel.

I gingerly stepped on each wooden board on my way down, certain I was going to tumble to my death. Why again did I agree to this? I didn’t even want to be down there. It smelled like dirt and mold. I swell up like a balloon if I touch mold. Lesley knows this. And it was probably crawling with centipedes down here. I hate centipedes.

But not Lesley. She catches bugs and puts them in a jar and tries to make pets out of them. It’s always been like this with us. We’re the same age. Well, more or less. She’s five weeks and five days older. But the point is, we grew up together, right across the street from each other, and she’s always been the one who loves doing typical “boy” stuff like digging for worms and hitting tin cans with slingshots. And wrestling. Ugh. She always moves faster than me and knocks me off my feet and pins me down before I even know what’s going on. It’s so embarrassing.

Me? I’d rather be inside reading a book. Or watching old Star Trek reruns. I actually got Lesley watching them with me, mostly because she likes laughing at the bad, outdated special effects. Still, she’d understand what I meant if I told her I felt like a redshirt right now, heading off to my doom in some dank underground cavern filled with hostile aliens. Then she’d laugh at me and tell me I’m being ridiculous while she marched off into the unknown, all guns blazing, like Captain Kirk. 

Overall, she’s pretty cool for a girl. And, like I said, always good for an adventure.

I finally got to the bottom stair. With my eyes squeezed shut, I took a leap of faith down onto the dirt, certain that I was going to fall through some kind of trap door and into a bottomless pit, swallowed up by the earth and never to be seen again.

When I eased open my eyes, I saw Lesley, maybe fifty feet down the tunnel. She was looking back at me with her arms folded and her foot tapping impatiently.

“Can we do this today?” she asked.

“Shut up,” I grumbled. When I caught up to her, her frown turned into a smile and she grabbed me by the arm.

“Come on! It’s so cool!” She tugged on my arm and led me deeper and deeper into this weird tunnel.

I looked around and saw nothing but dirt and rocks and roots, above us and below us. This wasn’t some old abandoned sewer pipe or anything like that. It was just a big dirt hole in the ground. Maybe five feet tall. I didn’t have to duck, but there also wasn’t a whole lot of headroom either. Obviously, someone, or something, dug this thing out by hand. But why? And where was the light coming from? I could feel that the tunnel was on a slight decline. We were definitely going deeper into the earth, and farther away from the light on the surface.

This was really weird. And seriously nerve-racking.

I was pretty sure I was going to die.

Two

“So how did you find this place?” I asked as I hoofed along behind Lesley.

“Max was digging around in Mom’s flower bed,” she said.

Max was Lesley’s dog. I like Max. He’s a good boy. I don’t know what breed he is. I don’t think Lesley knows either. He just showed up one day at her house and decided to hang around and never left. No one ever claimed him, so Lesley’s family kept him.

I can’t have dogs. Mom’s too worried that it’ll trigger some previously undiscovered allergy in me and I’ll get sick. But I play with Max almost every day and it’s fine. I wish Mom didn’t feel like she had worry about stuff so much.

Anyway, Max likes to do pretty much three things: eat, play fetch, and dig stuff. So I’m not surprised he was the one who found this thing.

“Has Max been down here?” I asked.

“No,” she shrugged. “For some reason he won’t come.”

Max might be the smartest one out of all of us. I was thinking we must be a hundred feet underground. And I still didn’t see the end.

All of a sudden, the tunnel made a sharp turn to the left. Lesley looked back at me and smiled. “We’re almost there!” she said. “Come on!” For the first time since I’d stepped down into the tunnel, she let go of my arm. She took off running and vanished around the corner.

“Wait!” I called out. I didn’t want to be in this creepy place alone. But Lesley wasn’t slowing down. I could hear her sneakers pounding against the dirt up ahead of me. So I picked up the pace.

This last section of the tunnel, if it actually was the last section, got a lot steeper and a whole lot narrower. And the ground got a lot rougher, too. It was like someone got tired of cutting the nice big hole into the earth and started to do the bare minimum just to get to the end. I didn’t like this. My claustrophobia was starting to kick in.

“Lesley?”

Dang it. Why did she have to be like this? Always Miss Danger and Adventure. Why can’t we just do something safe once in a while?

I started to feel dizzy. It felt like the walls were closing in on me. As I reached out to the wall to steady myself, I tripped and landed hard on my knees.

“Ow! Lesley, where are you?”

I wasn’t hurt. At least I didn’t think so. But when I got up and looked behind me, I saw what it was that knocked me off my feet. A big rock had apparently worked itself loose when I stepped on it. There were so many rocks and roots on the ground down in this part of the tunnel. Somebody should put up a warning sign or something. But of course, that would mean that people actually come down here, and no one in his right mind would actually do that.

I brushed myself off and carefully walked down, struggling not to lose my footing as the ground got more uneven and the angle got even steeper. Even worse, now I had to duck because the ceiling was getting lower.

“This had better not be one of your stupid pranks, Lesley,” I called out.

I started thinking about that time she stuck a frog in my backpack and it jumped out at me when I sat down at my desk. The whole class laughed at me when I screamed. I was so embarrassed. To her credit, Lesley felt bad about it and apologized to me at recess. That’s how she is. She isn’t mean. It’s just that sometimes she doesn’t think. But then she tells me I think too much. Maybe she’s right. All I knew was at this point, I was fully expecting her to be hiding around the next corner to yell boo at me and make me pee my pants. And then we’d have to walk all the way back up this stupid dirty tunnel, and for the next three months she’d go around telling everyone how she got me to go down into a hole in the ground just so she could jump-scare me. She literally would do that.

The tunnel got even shorter and narrower. Now I had to crouch to keep going.

“Lesley, this isn’t funny anymore,” I said. “C’mon, let’s go back.”

No answer.

The tunnel made another turn, this time to the right.

“Lesley? Lesley, why aren’t you answering me?”

Just then, I saw a huge root sticking out of the ground a few feet ahead of me. Next to the root was one of Lesley’s sneakers.

I panicked. “Lesley? Are you OK? Can you hear me?”

I grabbed her shoe and scooted down the hole as fast as I could. The tunnel made another turn. Around the corner, I saw Lesley, face down on the ground.

Three

“Oh, no! Lesley!”

The tunnel was steep enough that I was able to slide down to where she was lying. Her head was resting next to a big rock sticking out of the ground. Her Chicago Cubs baseball cap was sitting upside-down on the ground a few feet ahead of us. She must have tripped and slid down the hole until her head hit the rock.

I hurried and flipped her over. Her nice white T-shirt was covered in dirt. But worse than that, her left leg was skinned up pretty bad, from her knee up to where her cut-off jeans ended.

“Hey,” she said, blinking her eyes like she was just waking up. She looked up at me and smiled as if nothing was wrong.

“Are you all right?”

“Yeah. I caught my foot on a stupid root back there.”

“I know. I found your shoe,” I said, gesturing to my hand.

“Thanks,” she said, taking it from me. But as she went to sit up, she dropped the shoe and grabbed her head. “Ow!”

“You might have a concussion, Lesley. We should get you back up to the surface. And look at your leg! If we don’t get that cleaned out, it could get infected.”

My mom’s a nurse. That’s why I know all this stuff. She’s always fussing over me or cleaning off some body part with alcohol as a precaution. If I get so much as a sniffle, she sticks a thermometer under my tongue and sends me to bed with a bowl of chicken soup. Lesley says my mom has made me neurotic. But I didn’t think I was being neurotic here deep under the ground. Lesley’s cool. She’s my best friend. She drives me crazy, and yes, she’s a girl. But she’s still my best friend. At least I think of her that way. She probably doesn’t think about me that way. But that doesn’t really matter. More than anything, I just don’t want her to get hurt.

I don’t want anybody to get hurt. 

“Don’t worry about it,” she said. “I’ll be OK.”

“But… at least let me try to clean out your scrape,” I said, looking down at her bloody, dirty leg.

“With what?” she said. “There’s nothing down here. It’ll just have to wait.”

“But Lesley!”

Suddenly, she took my head in her hands and turned me to look at her.

“Hey! Relax, Ding-Dong. When we get there, I can ask it if I’ll be OK. Will that make you feel better?”

“What are you talking about?”

“Just come with me. Do you trust me?”

“Should I?”

She laughed. And then she did something totally unexpected. She leaned in and kissed me on the cheek.

“It’s really sweet that you care,” she said. “Now go get my hat while I put my shoe on.”

Four

As I squirmed past Lesley and picked up her hat, I couldn’t stop thinking about the fact that she kissed me. She actually kissed me! That was gross. But also… kind of nice. My stomach was doing all kinds of flippy-floppy things all of a sudden, and I didn’t know what that meant.

But I’d have to figure that out later, because she snatched her hat out of my hands, stuck it backwards on her head like she always did, and told me to come on as she started crawling further down the hole. I had to start crawling on all fours now, too. I couldn’t stand up at all at this point.

“I thought you said we were almost there!” I said as the tunnel started snaking back and forth and got smaller and smaller – and steeper and steeper.

“We are!”

Pretty soon, I was no longer even on my knees. I was marine-crawling, because there wasn’t room to do anything else. I started thinking about all those stories about people who go spelunking and make a wrong turn and get trapped in a skinny little tube and die.

My heart was pounding so hard.

“I don’t want to do this anymore, Lesley.”

“Almost there.”

“You said that ten minutes ago!”

Just then, she disappeared.

“Lesley?”

“We’re here!”

“Where’s here?”

“Just keep going. You’ll see me.”

I squeezed ahead, through an opening without an inch to spare. Then I felt a cool breeze on my face. I saw light, but nothing else.

“Down here!”

I looked down and saw Lesley waving at me. The ground had to be ten feet below me.

“That’s a long jump,” I gulped.

“Oh, come on!” she said. “I’m bleeding and I might have a concussion, and I made it down here all by myself.”

“That’s a comforting thought,” I mumbled.

She laughed. “OK, look to your left. There’s a little handhold there in the rock. Grab on to it and you can swing yourself down.”

I saw what she was talking about and wiggled my way out of the tube. I grabbed the little rocky outcropping, said a little prayer, and let myself drop.

“Ow,” I said, hitting the ground, more as a complaint than anything else.

Lesley clapped me hard on the shoulder. “See? You made it!”

“OK, but how do we get back up?” I looked back up at the hole that dropped us down here, feeling helpless and pretty anxious.

“I’ll show you. Don’t worry.”

Boy, it must be nice to be so fearless.

I looked around. We were inside a giant cavern. The slightest scrape of our feet echoed like a gong off the stone walls. I looked up and couldn’t even see the top. We must have been hundreds of feet underground. Thousands, maybe. And yet it was still as bright as day. It was like that scene in National Treasure when everything lights up underground and you see all the amazing things that had been safely hidden away for all those years.  

“Where’s the light coming from?” I asked, walking around to try to get my bearings.

Suddenly, Lesley grabbed me hard by the arm and yanked me backward.

“Down there, Ding-Dong,” she said, pointing to a deep chasm that I’d almost stepped off into. Imagine coming all this way and then plummeting to my death because I wasn’t watching where I was walking.

“Oh,” I said. “Thanks.”

“What are friends for? Come on!”

I looked down, mesmerized, into the illuminated hole, only to look up and see Lesley way over on the other side of the opening, easily a hundred feet away. Did I mention this hole was huge?

“What are you doing over there?” I called out.

“Showing you the way down! Come on!”

I made my way over to where she was standing. She looked at me with a smile. “Going down?” she said with a grand gesture of her hands.

I gulped. She rolled her eyes at me and sighed.

“Fine. I’ll go first.”

She stepped out onto a little stone step. The first of many, many steps. Little winding narrow steps that somebody had carved into the side of the rock probably ten million years ago. Steps that could so very easily crumble under my weight, like the ancient steps in the Mines of Moria. Steps that were so small and so steep, with no railing of any kind, that one misplaced footfall would send me plummeting to my death, like the Redshirt that I was clearly now doomed to be.

I couldn’t even see the bottom. All I saw was the bright light blaring up at us like some kind of subterranean sun. At this point, I was starting to think maybe it was the light shining out from the fires in the pits of hell. We were probably deep enough by this point.

I kept my eyes focused on Lesley’s feet ahead of me all the way down. If I just did what she did, maybe I wouldn’t die. Maybe.

I don’t know how long it took to get to the bottom, but it felt like an hour had gone by. I stepped off the final step with a sigh of relief and saw that we were standing on a flat, rounded stone surface.

“Well, here it is!” Lesley said.

“Here is what?”

“The way to the Chair!”

“What chair?”

She huffed at me and pointed. “Do you see the light, Ding-Dong?”

“Yes, of course I do.” The bright light that had illuminated the tunnel all the way down from the surface was emanating from beyond an archway off to the right.

“Then follow me,” she said, grabbing my arm.

We walked through the opening and were blasted by the full force of the light. I felt like my eyes were being stabbed with knives. I squeezed them shut, but it was still as if they were wide open.

“The light hurts!” I said.

“Just keep going!” she said. “It’ll be gone in a minute.”

“Gone?” What do you—”

Just then, the light vanished. It was no longer piercing through my eyelids. I opened my eyes and looked around. Confused, I looked behind us. This was nothing like what I was looking at, or trying not to look at, just five seconds ago. We were standing in the middle of some kind of… well, it looked like a little tropical glade. Like an oasis, a little clearing in the jungle or something. But how? How did this exist at the bottom of a hole in the ground?

I had so many questions.

Five

“Where are we?” I asked, more to myself than to Lesley. I heard birds chirping and leaves rustling all around us. In the distance, I could hear water running – maybe a river; maybe a waterfall. A cool breeze blew across my face. And overhead, I could feel the warmth of the sun. Or at least a sun, because I was starting to think we weren’t even on Earth anymore.

“I don’t know where we are,” Lesley said. “But isn’t it amazing?”

“It’s like we stepped through that bright light into another dimension or something,” I said. “It’s like those stories you hear about people dying and they tell you to go toward the light.” I thought about that for a minute. “Are we dead?”

Lesley laughed. “I’m pretty sure this isn’t heaven, if that’s what you mean. But who knows? Maybe it is.”

“But where did the bright light go?”

“I have no idea. All I know is you can’t see it from in here.”

But how can that be?

As I was standing there overthinking everything, a sudden rustling sound above my head startled me. I looked up just in time to see a monkey swinging on a vine from one tree to another, passing right over my head as he went on his way.

This was absolutely crazy.

“So where do you think this all came from?” I asked. “I mean, how did it get here?”

Lesley shrugged. “Maybe some crazy old scientist built it, decided it was more trouble than it was worth, and abandoned it. Who knows?”

“Trouble? What do you mean?”

“You know, it’s a good thing you have a head full of questions, because the Chair can tell you anything. Come on. I think you’re going to really like it.”

Lesley reached out for me to lead me on, only this time she didn’t grab my arm. She clasped her hand around mine. I looked down at our joined hands, then up at her. She just gave me a sweet smile and kept walking.

OK, this hand-holding thing was even weirder than monkeys swinging on vines over my head. But it felt kind of nice, too. A lot like that kiss on the cheek. My stomach was doing those weird little flip-flops again.

We walked deeper and deeper into the jungle. The running water I heard when we first got here kept getting louder, until we came to another clearing. I looked down to see we were standing on the brink of a deep blue lagoon. On the other side was a towering waterfall cascading down off a steep mountainside. So that was what I’d been hearing.  

Lesley tugged on my hand and led me to a little land bridge that took us over the lagoon and on to a rocky path toward the falls. As we got closer, I could see that there was a cave behind the curtain of water.

“Let me guess,” I shouted over the waterfall. “We’re going in there.”

“You guessed right.”

I looked up at the falls. The water was gushing down from hundreds of feet over our heads. I was already getting wet from the mist, but now we were going to have to run right through the falls and get soaked to the bone. I wasn’t sure I liked that, but there was no turning back now.

“Ready?” she said.

“No.”

“Too bad. Here we go.”

Before I could brace myself for it, Lesley tugged on my hand and we crashed through the wall of water. I gasped. She squealed with excitement. Because of course she did. One good thing, I guess, was that the water cleaned out the scrape on her leg.

And there we stood inside a big cave with smooth obsidian walls. I expected to be shivering from getting drenched, but I felt strangely… warm. I couldn’t really put my finger on why. But really, why should I have been questioning anything at that point? I was wandering around in an alternate-reality jungle that we got to from climbing down a hole, practically to the center of the earth, from Lesley’s back yard. If there was any day to expect the unexpected, this was definitely the one.

“Come on,” Lesley said, and tugged me along yet again.

When the heck were we finally going to get there?

Six

The sound of the waterfall got more and more faint the deeper we went into the cave. We kept going and going, zigging and zagging around big smooth slabs of rock. It was like walking through a maze. And the light from outside the cave was all gone now. It was pitch black. I couldn’t even see my own hands and feet, let alone Lesley’s.

“Lesley, how do you know where you’re going?”

“Because I’ve been down here before.”

“How many times?”

“Enough.”

“But how did you even get through this maze in the first place?”

“The monkey.”

“Wait. What?”

“He led me here.”

“You mean the one that was swinging over my head?”

“Have you noticed any other monkey since we got here?”

I had to admit I hadn’t.

“And before you ask,” Lesley said, “I don’t know what the monkey has to do with any of this. He just leads me here, and then he disappears into the dark.”

“But he’s not here now.”

“Yes, he is. He’s right in front of me.”

“What? I never saw him come into the cave.”

“Well, I guess you weren’t looking.”

OK, maybe Lesley was pulling some kind of elaborate prank on me. I don’t know how she could possibly pull off something this elaborate, but I wouldn’t put it past her. I mean, now she was trying to gaslight me about a monkey that I knew wasn’t there…

Until I saw him.

After walking for what seemed like a mile into the cave, we turned a corner that opened into a massive black room. It was completely empty, except for a little white box in the center. There was a light coming out of the box, which is why I could see the layout of the room. I could also see Lesley standing next to me. And in front of her, sure enough, was that stupid monkey.

“Thank you,” she said with a smile and a wave to the monkey, as if she’d done this exact thing a hundred times before. Maybe she had. The monkey, as if on cue, darted out of our sight.

Seven

“Well,” Lesley said, looking back at me, “this is it.”

“What? The box down there?”

“Yes. Come on,” she said with a tug. I followed her down the sloping floor toward the center of the room, where the shining box waited for us.

“So now you’re going to tell me we have to go inside the box and pass into yet another dimension, right?”

“You’ll see.”

Have you ever heard that anti-joke about the guy who wanted to see what the noise was behind the door in the monastery, but the person telling the joke can’t tell you what the noise was because you aren’t a monk? I was starting to feel like that.

Maybe none of this was really happening. Maybe I was home in bed having a dream. Or maybe Lesley drugged my milk or something. But I was having a really hard time believing any of this was actually real. It sure didn’t feel real.

It also felt like we were walking forever toward that box. I didn’t realize just how huge this room was when we first stepped in. But finally, we got there to the center and stood in front of the thing. Except now I could see it wasn’t just a box. Now that we were right next to it, I could see it was about the size of one of those little ice-fishing huts. Or an old outhouse. It was glowing somehow, which was kind of cool. And it seemed like it was throwing off some kind of warmth. Was this why it felt warm as soon as we stepped into the cave? And why was it warm? Was this thing emitting some kind of toxic radiation that was going to make us grow a third hand or something?

“So this is finally it?” I asked. “Is the Chair in here?”

She nodded excitedly. “Wait until you see inside.” She reached out to grab the door handle, and it swung open. She let me go in first.

I gasped.

It was another massive room, way bigger than the actual box I’d just stepped into. The inside bigger than the outside: How the heck did that work?

The door shut behind us with a thud. And suddenly, there was absolutely no noise. Where I could still faintly hear the waterfall in the distance in the last room, here there was nothing at all. This is probably what it was like being in one of those big sensory deprivation tanks.

Down in the middle of the room – yes, again off in the middle of everything – was something illuminated – yes, something glowing again. As I walked closer, I could see that it was a chair. The Chair was throwing off a vivid glow. It looked like it was covered in diamonds. It glittered. It practically beckoned me to come to it. And I did.

I reached out to touch it, half-expecting it to electrocute me, or blow me up, or something terrible. But all I felt was a soothing warmth. So this was the source of all the warmth we’d been feeling. The Chair was definitely exuding some kind of energy. But it definitely didn’t feel like a bad kind of energy. It felt vaguely inviting, like it wanted to you to come close and relax and let go of your worries.

At that moment I looked down, then over at Lesley, and I realized our clothes were completely dry. Weirder and weirder.    

“So this is the Chair, huh?” I said as Lesley stepped up to stand beside me.

“This is it.”   

“So what do I do now?”

“You sit in it, and you ask it whatever you want to know. And it’ll show you.”

“But how did you know it could do that when you first came down here?”

“I didn’t, until I sat down in it. Then… I just knew. You’ll understand when you try it.”

All of a sudden, I felt like Frodo in the forest glade with Galadriel, when she told him he’d look into the reflecting bowl and see things that are, things that were, and things that have not yet come to pass. I was kind of excited to try it, but also kind of terrified. What if I didn’t like what I saw? But at the same time, I felt like maybe I could get finally some answers to the things I could never understand. The things that gnawed at my mind. Maybe it would make me feel better.

“You look like you’re not sure,” Lesley said.

I shrugged, trying to act nonchalant about the whole thing. “What kind of things did you see?”

“All kinds of stuff.” She pointed toward the Cubs cap on her head. “I know who’s going to win the World Series next year,” she grinned.

“That’s it? So you’re telling me this is just, like, some glorified Magic 8-Ball or something?”

Lesley made an exasperated noise at me. “I know other stuff, too. That was just an example. Here, step aside.” She brushed past me and climbed into the chair.

I watched in amazement as the chair leaned back, all by itself, until she was practically lying down. The glow that the chair threw off had somehow wrapped itself around her. It was like she was becoming part of the chair or something.

“Lesley?”

She shooshed me. I stood there, waiting for something to happen. I didn’t see anything. Didn’t hear anything.

Then I saw her break into a big smile as she stared up at the dark, blank ceiling. Then she giggled. Then she started to laugh like someone had just told her the funniest joke she’d ever heard.

“What is it?” I asked. “I don’t understand. What’s happening?”

Just then, the chair began to slowly straighten back up into an upright position. The light that had been enveloping Lesley receded back into the chair, and she hopped off.

“I’m going to be fine,” she said, walking over to me with a big grin.

“What do you mean?”

“The scrape on my leg and the bonk on my head. Remember? I told you I’d ask. It showed me that I’m fine.”

“But I didn’t see anything.”

“Well, I did. I saw lots of things.”

“So what were you laughing at?”

“Huh? Oh, I just let my mind wander, and it showed me some nice things that are going to happen in the future.”

“Like what?”

She shrugged. “Happy stuff.”

“OK, that’s vague,” I said, side-eyeing her.

“You should try it! Go on,” she said. I nearly lost my balance as she gave me a firm nudge forward.

My heart was racing. Now that I was here, I wasn’t sure I wanted to do this at all. At first it sounded really neat. Now? Eh, maybe not.

I turned to look at her. “One, stop pushing me. Two, how do I know that when I climb on this thing, someone’s not going to hit the lights and a bunch of your friends will pop out and laugh at me?”

“Jeez, will you stop? Just get on!”

I sighed. Well, what’s the worst that could happen but a little humiliation? Not like that hasn’t happened a million times before. Boy, I must be the most gullible twelve-year-old in the world.

Eight

I stood next to the chair for a long moment. Then I worked up the courage to sit down on the very edge of it. But I hesitated to scoot back any further. I sat there frozen stiff for a second.

“It’s not gonna bite you, Ding-Dong,” Lesley scoffed at me from behind. “Just sit back. It’s fine.”

I turned to her and frowned as I started to slowly ease myself back into the seat. I gasped. The light from the chair started kind of dancing around me. It didn’t hurt. It was just… warm. It was like it was waiting for me to get settled in.

I could do this. I looked back at Lesley again. With a smile, she nodded. “You’re good!” she said.

I slid all the way back and got myself comfortable. As soon as I did, all at once the light from the chair encircled my whole body. It kind of felt like burrowing yourself inside a nice warm blanket that you just pulled fresh out of the dryer. In fact, it was almost exactly like that, because now I couldn’t see anything outside of the bubble of light. It was like I was inside some kind of big force field.

“Lesley? Are you still there?”

“I can see you, but I don’t think you can see me,” she said. “I didn’t see you when I was in the Chair. It’s like you’re here but not here when you sit in the Chair, if that makes any sense.”

“No, Lesley. It makes no sense whatsoever.”

“Just trust me. It’s OK.”

Then I felt myself falling slowly backward. The Chair was reclining. It kept going until I was flat on my back.

I stared up at the blank ceiling, or at least what I perceived as the ceiling.

“Nothing’s happening,” I told Lesley.

“You have to talk to it with your mind,” she said. “Just relax and let the thoughts come.”

“I don’t know how to relax,” I mumbled.

“Just try.”

I took a deep breath and let it out. Then I started to see something. It was grainy, like an old silent movie. I couldn’t make out what it was at first.

“I see something, Lesley!”

It started to come into focus. It filled my vision. At first I thought it was somehow being projected onto the ceiling.

“Can you see this?” I asked her.

“No. I don’t think it works like that. Only the person in the Chair can see it.”

Well, I sure saw it. It was like sitting in a big Imax theater with a wraparound 3-D screen. And I didn’t just see it. I felt like I was right there inside of what I saw.

It was like a movie. A movie of me. I was looking at myself. I was in a car. In the back seat. Then I saw my mom looking back at me with a smile from the front. Looking up toward the rearview mirror, I saw my dad’s eyes, crinkling like they always did whenever he smiled or laughed.

I think I was coming home from the hospital. I must have just been born.

Whoa. This was nuts!

I saw Mom pulling me out of the car, taking me in the house, and putting me in my crib. She bent down to kiss my cheek. Then I saw my dad smiling down at me.

“Hi, Dad!” I said out loud. But he couldn’t hear me. He also bent down to kiss me. Then he walked toward the door.

“Dad, don’t go,” I said. But he walked out of the room with Mom and turned off the lights.

My head started to whirl. The next thing I saw was me taking my first steps in our back yard. Mom reached out to grab me as I stumbled. She caught me just before I would have face-planted into the ground.

The scenes kept unfolding, one by one. There I was sitting down at my desk on my first day of Kindergarten, with Lesley sitting across from me.

“Hey, Lesley!” I called out. “I see you!”

If she said anything back, I didn’t hear it.

Suddenly, Dad was back. He was teaching me how to ride my bike. He took me fishing. He was in my bed reading to me one night, when Mom was working late at the hospital and I couldn’t get to sleep.

Then Mom was back, sitting in her nurse’s scrubs at the kitchen table, looking exhausted. I saw her on the phone with the doctors. I saw Dad sick in bed. I saw us in the hospital looking at X-rays. I saw my mom wiping away tears as she reached out to scoop me up in her arms and tell me it was going to be OK, even though I don’t think she believed her own words.

“Mom, it’s not your fault,” I said out loud.

Then I saw the funeral.

Oh, no.

I panicked.

“Lesley, how do I make it stop?” I called out. “I don’t want to do this anymore.”

“Just say that in your mind,” came her voice. It sounded muddled. “You always have control over it.”

But the images kept coming, faster and faster.

“Where’s Dad?” I called out – not in my mind, but out loud. “Where is he? Is he OK? Tell me he’s not suffering anymore. Please.”

I watched the scenes flip by, like someone was frantically swiping through images on a phone to find the one picture he was looking for. I felt like I couldn’t catch my breath. Hot tears were streaming down my face.

“Dad?” I called out.

Flip. Flip. Flip.

“Lesley, help me!”

Just then I looked down and saw a hand grab my arm. Lesley’s hand was inside the bubble of light I was in, but I couldn’t see any other part of her. I did hear her voice, but it was muffled, distant, like she was standing on the other side of a wall.

“I’m here,” she said. “It’s OK.”

“No, it’s not. Pull me off this thing. Please!”

I saw both of Lesley’s arms come into view. She wrapped them around me, and with a yank, she tore me off the Chair. My legs felt like jelly, but Lesley managed to hold me up. She just stood there with her arms wrapped around me as I cried.

Nine

“That was terrible,” I said, sobbing into her shoulder. I felt so stupid bawling like a big baby.

“I’m sorry,” she said, her own voice quaking. “It was my fault.”

I pulled back to look at her and rubbed at my eyes. “What do you mean?”

“I didn’t prepare you. It’ll show you whatever you want, but it can be good stuff or bad stuff. I think it picks up on your mood.”

“Great,” I mumbled, wiping away my tears. “So it’s also a giant mood ring.”

I gave in to my weak legs and plopped down on the floor. Lesley came down and sat next to me. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw the Chair returning to its upright position, somehow all by itself. Well, it does seemingly have a mind of its own. I shouldn’t have been surprised.

“The difference between you and me,” Lesley said, “is that I usually think of happy stuff. You’re all doom and gloom. I should have known better. I’m sorry.”

She was right about that. I’d been doom and gloom ever since Dad went away. It didn’t use to be like that. I used to happy, like Lesley. Now it was like I was afraid of everything. So was Mom. Every time I get sick or hurt myself, Mom gets frantic. She smothers me. I know why she does it. “Don’t you leave me too, kiddo.” I’ve lost count of how many times she’s said that.

“So this thing is useless for me,” I said.

Lesley shrugged. “I don’t know. I was hoping it would help in some way.”

“What do you mean, help?”

“Like, maybe it could help you sort some stuff out. I just miss the way you used to be.”

My gaze fell to the floor. “Yeah. Me, too.” I thought for a minute, then looked back up at her. “Wait. Did you do all this just for me?”

“Kind of, yeah,” she said with a sheepish grin. “Once I knew what it could do, I guess I wanted to see if it could help you.”

“But why?”

She sighed. She sounded like she was exasperated with me.

“Do you ever wonder why I prank you so much?”

I shrugged. “You like picking on me?”

She swatted my arm. “No, Ding-Dong. Because I like you!”

I frowned. “You have a funny way of showing it sometimes.”

“Don’t you get it? I want to make you laugh. I want you to take yourself a little less seriously. I want you to lighten up. Have fun!”

“That’s really hard for me to do,” I said, looking down. 

“I know, and it hurts me to see you so sad and scared all the time. I want to fix you, and I don’t know how.”

“But why, Lesley? It’s not your responsibility to fix me. Why should you even care?”

She frowned. “Do you really know that little about me after twelve years?”

“What do you mean?”

She reached out to take my hands in hers. “You know, I don’t just like you. I really like you. You’re my best friend in the whole world.”

“Me?”

She rolled her eyes. “No, the monkey, Ding-Dong. Of course, you! I’d do anything for you. You do realize that, right? That’s why I brought you down here.”

She’d do anything for me? There went that little flip-flop in my stomach again. I didn’t know what to say. So I just gave her an uncomfortable shrug and looked away.

Ten

“So… what kind of stuff do you actually see when you’re in the Chair?” I asked. “Other than the Cubs winning the World Series?”

She laughed. “I mostly just ask fun little stuff, like where am I going to live when I grow up? What kind of car am I going to drive? Where am I going to go to college? What kind of career will I have? Am I going to finally win the school spelling bee next year?”

I laughed too. It ticked her off that she came in second to Nick Swanson. He was such a teacher’s pet.

“I also found out where Max came from, and why.”

That got my attention. I looked back at her.

“Remember how we put up posters but we could never find an owner?”

“Yeah.”

“His owners abandoned him. Just let him out of the car and drove off. And he walked right to our house.”

I looked at the Chair, and then back at Lesley. “It showed you that?”

She nodded. “Not only that, but it told me there was a reason he came to our house.”

“What do you mean, a reason?”

“Remember when Max sniffed out my mom’s cancer?”

“Yeah.”

“That’s why.”

“Max came to your house to save your mom’s life?”

“More or less, yeah.”

“So you can ask the Chair stuff like that and it’ll answer you?”

“Yes! That’s what I’ve been trying to tell you. Anything you want to know.”

Now I wanted to hop back in the Chair and ask it why Lesley’s mom got to live while my dad had to die. But if my state of mind controls what I see in the Chair, I wasn’t sure I wanted to go there. I wanted to know the answer, but at the same time I didn’t.

“But I asked it if my dad was OK and not suffering anymore and in a better place, and it was like the Chair couldn’t find the answer,” I told Lesley. “Did I do something wrong?”

Lesley started to say something, but stopped herself.

“What is it?”

She shook her head. “Maybe it can’t give you the answer if there is no answer.”

“But how could there not be an answer?”

Lesley looked up and chewed on her lip, like she was trying to formulate a question in her head. Then she looked back at me.

“What exactly did you see?”

“I basically saw flashbacks of my life, up until Dad died. It was like those near-death experiences you hear about when your brain does this highlight reel of your entire existence.” I stopped to think. “Are you absolutely sure we’re not dead?”

Lesley laughed. “Pretty sure.”  

I didn’t know what else to say or do. The silence engulfed us for what seemed like hours.

Finally, Lesley broke the silence.

“Look, I don’t know exactly how this thing works. All I know is that I’m usually in a good mood when I hop on. Just curious to know stuff. You know? And I think that has something to do with it.” She paused. “It did tell me something sad once. When it did, I kind of got the highlight reel like you did. It’s like it spins out of control if your own mind is spinning out of control.”

“How did you stop it?”

“I just got off and calmed myself down. Then I was OK. But I also couldn’t unsee what I saw, and now I’m stuck with it forever. So I just try to make sure I’m in a good place when I get on, and I don’t ask stuff I don’t want to know the answer to.”

I was almost afraid to ask, but now my curiosity was killing me.

“You want to know what it is, don’t you?” she asked.

I nodded.

“I know when Max is going to die.” Her eyes welled up with tears. “Even worse, I know how.”

I started to ask when, but I stopped myself. The “even worse” part made me realize that I didn’t really want to know. I reached out to hug her as the tears streamed down her cheeks. I just held her for a while in silence.

“I think I understand what you’re saying now about how this works,” I said.

She pulled away and dried her eyes. “Yeah,” she said with a sniffle.

Eleven

The silence settled around us again. Again, Lesley broke it.

“So… do you just wanna go home and forget about this, or…?”

I looked back at the Chair and thought for a minute. I could do this. I really wanted to get an answer. Maybe in the end it really couldn’t tell me anything, but I could sure try one more time.

I got to my feet and took the few steps over to where the Chair sat gleaming out from the dark. I took a deep breath and sat myself down. The light blanketed me as the chair slowly reclined back.

“Hey, Lesley?”

“Yeah?” came the muffled reply from behind the veil of light.

“Is it OK if I hold your hand?”

Without another word spoken between us, I saw Lesley’s hand come into view. I clasped onto it as I took a deep breath.

“Just try to relax,” she said. “I’m right here with you.”

That did actually make me feel better.

I slowed my breathing and tried to clear my mind. I thought about Canyon, my weird hippie uncle, and how he said we have to tame the monkey mind. He was into all that Buddhist meditation stuff. He said if your mind hangs on to a thought you don’t want, just visualize it like a cloud and let it float on by.

So that’s what I tried to do. Thought. Cloud. Thought. Cloud. Breathe. Relax. I held on to Lesley’s hand a little bit tighter.

I breathed a thought out from my mind.

Where is my dad now? Is he OK? Is he happy? Does he miss me?

I was starting to pile up the questions, so I figured I should stop there. Hopefully that would be enough.

Slowly, the clouds I’d been envisioning in my head began to materialize on the ceiling. So far, so good. This seemed peaceful, at least. No frantic scrolling through memories to find something hopeful to cling on to. Just clouds.

Then I saw him. I saw those same crinkly eyes that looked down at me in my crib when I was a newborn baby. He was gently smiling. He looked so serene.

“Hey, Dad,” I said out loud. My voice shook as a tear rolled down my cheek. “I miss you, Dad.”

I waited for him to say something. Do something. Anything. Was there something else I should say?

No. Don’t panic. Just let yourself be in the moment.

I took a deep breath and focused on his face. His smile grew wider. A big, toothy grin, like he was getting ready to laugh. It was like he was trying to talk to me without words.

“Are you OK, Dad? Are you happy? Are you at peace?”

He still didn’t say anything. But I could feel a sense of calm washing over me. I think it was coming from Dad himself. He was letting me know he was OK. I knew. I knew it in my heart.

Finally, I knew.

“I love you, Dad,” I choked out through my tears.

Just as slowly as he’d appeared, he gradually disappeared back into the clouds.

I had no idea if what I’d just seen was from a memory I held from some point in my life, or if it actually was Dad reaching out to me from the Great Beyond. But I decided it didn’t matter. I felt his love, and that was enough.

Twelve

I wiped my eyes and told the Chair to lift me up. The image of the clouds disappeared and I saw Lesley looking at me with a hopeful expression.

“Well?” she asked as I hopped off.

“I saw what I needed to,” I said. “I’m good.”

“Yeah?”

I nodded. “Yeah. Better than I’ve been in a long time, actually.” I looked Lesley in the eyes. Not knowing what else to do, I reached out and scooped her into a tight hug.

“Thanks for bringing me down here,” I said, gently rocking her back and forth.

“What are friends for?” she said, hugging me back. 

I wish I could have just stayed wrapped up in her arms like that forever. It felt so good. So safe. So… loving.

I released her and realized I was still crying. I sniffled and wiped the snot off my nose.

“I’m sorry I’ve been such a crybaby today,” I said.

She frowned at me. “You don’t need to apologize for crying, Ding-D…” She pinched her mouth shut in mid-sentence. Then her expression softened into a smile. “Damian.”

“Damian.” Hearing my real name come out of her mouth sounded so nice. She hadn’t used it in so long.

Dang flippy-floppy stomach.

“So how do we get out of here?” I asked, trying to change the subject.

“Well, we can go back the way we came. Or…” she looked behind me at the Chair.

“What? Don’t tell me you can think yourself back.”

“I asked it once out of curiosity. I just didn’t feel like doing all that climbing. Next thing I knew I was back home.”

“So it’s like a Magic 8-Ball and a mood ring and a genie in a bottle.”

She laughed. “I guess. Hope we never run out of wishes if that’s the case.”

Her laugh was so pretty. So was her smile. Why was I noticing this stuff all of a sudden? What was the matter with me?

“Before we go,” she said, “can I ask a favor?”

“Sure.”

“I saw something else one time when I was in the Chair. I want you to see it too. It was another reason I wanted you to come down here.”

“Oh-kaay,” I said, trying to see if I could pick out from her expression what she was up to. “Am I going to like this or not?”

“I hope you like it,” she giggled.

I looked at the Chair, then back at her.

“Do you trust me?” she said.

“Yes,” I said. “But I’ll only do it on one condition.”

“What’s that?”

“I get to hold your hand again?”

She laughed that pretty laugh of hers. “I wouldn’t have it any other way.”

I slid back onto the chair and slipped into the veil of light. Lesley’s hand came into view, and I grabbed onto it. Not out of fear, like before, but just because I was happy to have her there with me.

When the chair finished reclining, I flinched in surprise. Lesley’s face came into view, right over mine. She was leaning down into the bubble to whisper to me what I should ask the Chair. Then she lightly kissed me on the cheek and disappeared from my view.

Ah, the flippy-floppies. I was really starting to like them.

I relaxed like I did before. In my mind, I asked the question Lesley said I should ask. And just like before, blurred images slowly began to take shape, until the movie was rolling all around me.

At first I wasn’t sure what I was looking at. I saw two people holding hands, going on dates, laughing, enjoying life. I saw a ring sliding onto a finger. Gowns, dresses, tuxedos. A house I didn’t recognize, but one that the people in my vision did. A house that I could feel was filled with love.

The people who lived there got into a daily routine. Off to work, back home, making dinner together, falling asleep in front of the TV snuggled up on the couch.

Then… kids. A boy and a girl, who both looked strangely familiar. I saw their first loves and their heartbreaks. School dances. Senior proms. Graduations. More gowns and tuxedos. Then, grandchildren.

I saw good times, bad times. I saw life unfolding.

And it was beautiful. All of it.

“Do you see it?” came Lesley’s muffled voice.

“I see it,” I said, squeezing her hand a little tighter.

“Everything’s going to be OK,” she said.

She was right.

Epilogue

The next day, Lesley and I were in her back yard playing catch. Boy, did she have a mean fastball. It stung my hand every time the ball hit my mitt. She was good. It always looked like she was resisting the urge to laugh whenever I tossed the ball back to her. I think I threw more like a girl than she did. But at least that day, she wasn’t teasing me me about it, which was a nice change of pace.

Lesley had a big old bandage on her leg. When we got back, I took her across the street to my house and asked Mom if she could look her over. I knew it made Mom feel good to help. She bandaged up Lesley’s leg, gave her a quick concussion check, and was satisfied that we didn’t have to rush off to the ER. She told us to be more careful when we were playing and sent us on our way. I thought Mom handled that pretty well.  

As we were tossing the ball back and forth, I thought about everything I saw down there in the Chair. It was a lot to take in, and honestly, I don’t know how often I’m going to go back. I think maybe life is more fun if you just let it surprise you from one day to the next.

Still, I’m glad I know what I know.

I’m also glad we didn’t make the climb back up to the surface afterward. When I was done with my session in the Chair and Lesley and I had a chance to talk about stuff, I thought for a minute about how we should go home. Lesley had said we could just think ourselves back. But the more I thought about that option, the more I wondered: What if I think the wrong thing and I end up in, like, Bangladesh or something? She just laughed at me and wondered if I’d learned anything at all from our adventure.

And she was right. I didn’t need to be afraid. I needed to take a chance. I needed to trust once in a while that things would be all right. I knew there’d still be times in life when it was going to be hard to see how things could possibly turn out OK. But Lesley settled that discussion, at least the one we had about getting back home, when she looked me dead in the eyes down there beside the Chair and said to me, “Do you trust me, Damian?”

And I just smiled back at her and said, “I do.”

Then it was just a matter of working out the logistics for our mental return trip. Did we have to go back one at a time, or was there some way we could go together? We really wanted to go back together. Not only did we not want to leave one of us down there alone, but it would just be so much nicer if we could go back as one. Lesley didn’t know the answer any more than I did. But she had a hunch that if we just asked the Chair to send us back together, it would.

But did we have to both be on the Chair at the same time? And if so, how were we going to do that? It wasn’t very big. Again, she had an idea. She had me lie down on the chair. The light engulfed me and she disappeared from my view.

I waited.

“Peek-a-boo!” she said, as she pushed her face through the barrier, just like she did when she’d whispered into my ear earlier.

“You ready?” she asked.

“Ready,” I said.

With that, she hopped up onto the chair and leaned herself back against me. I slid my arms around her waist, and we waited for a second as we looked cautiously around us.

Well, the Chair didn’t eject us. It didn’t collapse under our combined weight.

“I think we’re good,” I said.

“Yeah,” Lesley said. “Step One complete.”

“Oh, hey, here goes Step Two.” I watched as the Chair’s bubble of light spread out from me to surround both of us.

“So far, so good,” I said.

“OK,” Lesley said. “Ready for Step Three?”

“Yep.”

I braced myself as Lesley rolled over to face me. That part I was expecting. What I wasn’t expecting was when she grabbed my hands and pinned them above my head, lacing her fingers between mine.

I looked up at our joined hands, then back at her. “Extending your record as the unbeaten backyard wrestling champion?”

Lesley grinned. “Just making extra sure we don’t lose each other on the way back.”

“Whatever you say.”

Anyway, I wasn’t going to complain.

As I looked up at Lesley, I saw the lights from the Chair dancing in her pretty green eyes. Everything about Lesley was so pretty. She looked nice, she smelled nice… heck, she felt nice. The feeling I had at that moment was so weird, almost like I was looking at her for the first time. Jeez, if this is what puberty does to a guy, I was in big trouble.

“All right,” Lesley said, “let’s do this.”

“So are you sure this is going to work?”

“If we think it, it should work. Right?”

“Yeah, I guess.” I suddenly had a Star Trek flashback as I told her with a grin, “I’m not sure I’m ready to have my molecules disassembled.”

We both burst out laughing. It felt so good to laugh.

“OK,” she said, “let’s go. Two to beam up, Scotty.”

I watched as her face came down slowly, closer and closer, to meet mine. Then our lips touched.

Wow, talk about flippy-flops.

I concentrated the best I could, which admittedly wasn’t easy while I was getting my first proper kiss. But we agreed this was the best way to make sure we both made it back together. Well, OK, maybe I kind of suggested it, and she giggled and said it sounded like a great idea. We just figured that if we were connected, then maybe our brains would be too. Kind of like a Vulcan mind meld, but maybe a little more enjoyable.

I took in a deep breath, and in my mind I asked the Chair to send us home.

Instantly, there was a bright flash of light. And the next thing I knew, we were in Lesley’s back yard.

Just like that.

And here we were, the very next day. Just carrying on like we always had. Two best friends, who now had a little sneak peek of what life held in store for the two of them. I gotta say, what I saw wasn’t all that bad.

“Damian! Heads up!”

“Huh?”

Lesley’s voice broke me out of my daydream. The baseball was whizzing right toward my face. I didn’t see her throw it. Instinctively, I ducked out of the way and the ball rolled across the yard.

Just then, Max came bounding out through the dog door and charged after the ball.

“Apparently he thinks we’re playing fetch,” I said. Lesley just laughed. Gosh, I love that laugh. I could listen to that for the rest of my life.

I turned around to see Max releasing the ball at my feet. I dropped to my knees to give him a good ear scratch.

“Good Max,” I said. “Good boy.” He wagged his tail like crazy and started licking my face. Not quite as nice as Lesley’s kisses, but I figured I’ll take it.

The future would work itself out however it was going to. For now, we were going to just enjoy being kids, taking things one day at a time, and enjoying what each day gave us. If the Chair taught me anything, it was to live life to the fullest, no matter what it throws at you. Make the most of the time you’ve got. Hold on to the good stuff and let the bad stuff go. This is a lot for two kids our age to take in. But something tells me we can deal with it.

Like Lesley said, everything’s going to be OK.

I trust her.

(Photo by charlesdeluvio on Unsplash.)

Saturday, September 21, 2024

What Do You Do With a Problem Like Pope Francis?

I grew up in the Catholic church of the early 1970s. The church was still trying to find its footing in those first post-Vatican II years that had ushered in a complete overhaul of the faith. Centuries of tradition had been thrown overboard in the blink of an eye. Modernism was in full swing, and ecumenism was the buzzword of the age. The church had finally gotten with the times. No more medieval mumbling in Latin by a priest who had his back turned to the congregation. Now the priest would face the people and carry on a conversation with them in their own language.

I never knew the pre-Vatican II church. I was the first person in my family born into the new church. The grandparents who adopted and raised me were converts. The old ways were still in effect when they joined. For me, I didn’t get a taste of those old ways until I attended a Latin Mass many years later. My first impression was that I didn’t like it. Why couldn’t I hear the priest? Why was he turned away from us? How am I supposed to know when to stand, sit, and kneel? What did anyone get out of this?

It would take me many more years after that to fully realize that the problem wasn’t the Latin Mass. It was that the Catholic church had changed so much after the Vatican II reforms that it made centuries of tradition before it incomprehensible to people like me who weren’t old enough to have been exposed to the old Mass.

There was such an obsession with being ecumenical in those days that anything that carried the slightest whiff of Catholicism was downplayed, excused away, or ignored, lest we alienate our Christian fellow-travelers. Communion rails were ripped out. Gregorian chant and pipe organs gave way to contemporary hymns led by a cantor on an acoustic guitar. New church buildings shunned the inspiring stained glass and towering arches that turned our thoughts heavenward in favor of stark contemporary architecture, complete with the dreaded felt banners hanging behind the altar, which itself was now more of a table for a communal feast than the sacred place where a bloodless sacrifice to God had traditionally taken place.

I remember churches that stuffed their statues into storage closets. I also remember that a nun gave me a rosary as a confirmation present — and I had no idea what to do with it, because no one had ever taught me how to say a rosary. In the pre-Vatican II church, there were too many old ladies praying their beads and not paying attention to the Mass, so the story went, and the proposed solution was to discourage private Catholic devotions while increasing lay participation in the Mass. You were going to say the altar boys’ responses to the priest, in your own language, whether you wanted to or not.

This was the way forward, the faithful were told. It was a bold new day. Years of backwards stodginess and clericalism were being washed away. The church was contemporized, modernized, and liberated.
The problem with all of this is that, in its desire to be loved by and play nice with modern society, the Catholic church could no longer provide any compelling reason why anyone should actually be Catholic, as opposed to anything else — or even nothing at all. I found it telling, when I inevitably went shopping for a new church home, that the vernacular Novus Ordo Mass was essentially indistinguishable from an Episcopal service, or any service at a liturgical Lutheran church. So, again, what reason was there to pick one over the other if they were all basically interchangeable?

In short, nobody had ever told me why I should stay. So I didn’t. And it took me a couple of decades to find my way back.

Fast-forward to today, and we find the church led by one of the vanishing generation of Vatican II revolutionaries. I actually liked Jorge Bergoglio when he first became Pope Francis. I appreciated his pastoral approach to the papacy, meeting people where they were with care and compassion. But I was also younger and more naive in those days, and as much as I was attracted to the all those idealistic hippie notions of peace and love that were thick in the air when the church changed course in the Sixties and Seventies, I wasn’t yet mature enough to appreciate that peace and love aren’t an end-all and be-all to every problem in the real world. We could do with a kinder, gentler planet. Don’t get me wrong. But sometimes you also need some tough love. You need to be able to be firm and take a stand. You need to have the courage to say this is right and that is wrong.

Just look at Jesus. He wasn’t an anything-goes hippie, much as religious liberals often want to paint him that way. He never told people that whatever felt good was what they should do. He was serious about his faith. He just said that people were looking for the Kingdom of God in the wrong places and the wrong ways. He came with a wake-up call. He said that if you really wanted to know God, then you should pick up your cross and follow his example. You came to God through him, and only through him, because he was the perfection of the union between God and man. You can understand this literally or metaphorically, and it comes out basically the same. The point is that you commit yourself to a discipline of following him wherever he leads you, secure in the trust that he won’t lead you astray.

The problem is that this idea promotes a religious exclusivism that rubs the anything-goes crowd the wrong way. Francis is unquestionably an aging member of that crowd, a fading echo of that era of hippie idealism. And that’s why he so often says ridiculous things that rankle the faithful, while sending his defenders scrambling to “popesplain” that he didn’t really say what we all know he said. And if you don’t understand what he meant, then that’s on you, not on him.

Consider, for example, Fiducia Supplicans, Francis’ decree that priests could bless people in “irregular relationships.” It was obvious to sensible people of the faith that this document was clearing the way for ecclesiastical validation of things that oppose church teaching. The media, predictably, spun the decree as opening the door to the Catholic blessing of same-sex unions, but it was more than that. It essentially allowed for blessings of all manner of relationship situations that the church doesn’t approve of, whether that be a divorced Catholic who got remarried without an annulment, Catholics who married outside the church without a later convalidation before a priest, or even just two unmarried people living together. Francis and the popepslainers were quick to say, “Oh, we’re blessing the people in the union, not the union itself,” but of course that’s a distinction without a difference — not to mention that priests could already bless individual people before the document was written. So what was the point of the document, if not to implicitly condone the unions that the people being blessed were in?

This is typical Francis: Saying one thing, leaving everybody confused as to the meaning, and then leaving his handlers and allies to clean up the mess. But more than that, when Francis takes actions like this — and this is far from the only one — the cumulative effect is one that systematically weakens the tenets of the faith while pretending that nothing’s wrong and nothing has changed. And if you criticize him, you’re the problem. In fact, you’re probably one of those “rigid traditionalists” that Francis constantly berates.

And this is how we got to the point where Francis told a group of kids in Singapore this past week that “all religions are a way to arrive at God.” Sikh, Muslim, Hindu, Christian — they’re all just different languages to arrive at the same place.

As usual, the popesplainers had to go into overdrive, this time trying to gaslight people into believing that Francis actually didn’t engage in an act of indifferentism — the heretical idea that one religion is no better than, or even no different from, another. As if to drive the point home, Francis went to Albania a few days later and proclaimed to another youth group that religious diversity is a “gift from God.” Apparently, jihadist fanatics who want to behead you for not prostrating to Allah are just misunderstood. Their religion is a gift. And your religion is no better than theirs.

Of course, we could take a charitable stance and assume that Francis meant to express himself in accord with the Catechism of the Catholic Church. Paragraph 843 of the CCC states that the church “recognizes in other religions” the search for the God who “wants all men to be saved” and therefore “considers all goodness and truth found in these religions as ‘a preparation for the Gospel.’”

But that’s not what he said. It’s also not what he said later in Albania. He said, in essence, that it doesn’t matter which religion you pick, since they all end up at the same place anyway. That’s an outrageous thing for the leader of the world’s largest Christian body to say. It tells the world that the founder of your own faith doesn’t really matter. Jesus is a nice guy and all, but if you want to be a Hindu, that’s fine too. Makes you wonder if the pope really is Catholic — or even Christian at all.

More than that, it’s not even an accurate statement. All religions by definition can’t be “a way to arrive at God,” since not all religions are centered on the concept of a deity. Buddhism, Taoism, Confucianism, and Jainism come immediately to mind. Nor are all religions monotheistic: Hinduism has thousands of gods.

But even worse than that is the way his statement relativizes the inherent worth and goodness of all religious traditions. Here we find the anything-goes hippie ideal rearing its head again. But it’s a simple and incontrovertible fact that some religions, just like some cultures, are better than others, and it’s OK to take a stand and say that. Saying, for example, that Mesoamerican religions that glorified human sacrifice are just as good as any other religion is no different from saying that a culture that oppresses women and engages in religious violence is just as good as a civilized culture that promotes equality and liberty.

Nor is it even accurate to suggest that you have to go up a metaphorical mountain in search of the divine. If anything distinguishes Christianity from other religions, it’s the idea that God came down to us and met us where we are. He entered into our reality and became one of us, suffering on our behalf to mend the rift between heaven and earth. Did Muhammad do that? Did the Buddha? No. Francis’ words suggest that he doesn’t even believe this most basic and essential tenet of Christianity to be true. Otherwise, he wouldn’t have said what he said. And not only did his words betray the faith, but they delivered a hard and merciless slap in the face to every martyr of the past 2,000 years who submitted to torture and death rather than recant his or her faith.

Now, most people would stop short of saying Francis is a heretic. I have my own opinion on the matter. I will say that I don’t think he’s a good pope. The church will survive him, just as it has survived other bad popes. But that doesn’t change the fact that he really irritates me. And the reason he bugs me so much is that he’s just like the people who were running the church when I was growing up in the Seventies — the ones who said, in all but words, that it didn’t matter what religion I belonged to, or why I should even be Catholic, or religious at all. He was one of the anything-goes crowd who was so anxious to throw off tradition in its embrace of ecumenism that it didn’t give anyone any compelling reason to stick around. All these years later, Novus Ordo churches are graying and thinning out, and we face a severe shortage of priests, while polls show that among those who remain in the church, many if not most don’t really adhere to the teachings anyway. These are the fruits of ecumenism. This is what the reforms of Vatican II gave us. This is what modernism has wrought. This is the legacy of Francis and those who share his mindset. Instead of standing as a bulwark against society when it needed a corrective, the church became so eager to be relevant and accepted that it ended up standing for nothing.

That was in large part why I left. I had nagging questions that no one could answer, and since no one told me why I should stay, I didn’t. It took me two decades to find my way back. I went up the proverbial mountain of relativism and indifferentism that Francis extols, taking him and others at his word that it didn’t matter what path I took to get to the top. On that journey, I found lots of things that could have, and sometimes did, inflate my own ego, justifying the notion that doing whatever you want is just fine, since your way is every bit as good and valid as anybody else’s way. But it never led to satisfaction, only more questioning and searching. This is what the people of Francis’ generation can’t seem to understand. People crave meaning. And you can’t derive much meaning from the simplistic idea that one thing is equally as good as another. You need to make distinctions. You need structure. You need to take a stand.

More than anything, I was looking for a philosophy of life to give my existence greater shape and meaning. That’s ultimately what I spent so many years looking for. And that’s what Catholicism has done for me. I came back, reluctantly at first, kicking and screaming at times. But I still found my way back — no thanks to people like Francis who would try to send me back up the Mountain of Indifference with no clear goal or purpose.

I’ve since come to realize that this is why Francis hates traditionalist Catholics so much. Traditionalists want the clarity that comes with embracing the church’s heritage and doing our best to abide by its time-tested teachings. The Vatican II generation wanted to jettison that heritage. It was too “rigid.” And when those who know their faith call him out, he feels singled out and tripped up. The traditionalists convict him by his own words and actions. They hold up a mirror, and he doesn’t like what he sees. His solution is not to ponder the reflection but to break the mirror. That’s part and parcel of what the Vatican II generation set out to do: to break things, like the iconoclasts of old, so they could sever themselves from the weight of the past and remake the church in their own image. So why would we expect any less of Francis and his ilk? Of course he’s going to say heretical things. That’s what modernists and relativists do.

Now, I’m not perfect, and I’m not saying I am. More than that, my own extensive spiritual travels around the world have given me tremendous respect for other religious beliefs. So I’m not coming into this argument with some kind of exclusivist Crusader mindset. But when Francis says crazy things like this, it makes me feel as if I seem to care far more about the faith than he does. Where he leaves the impression that he wants to undermine the faith in the pursuit of being nice to everybody, I’m just over here trying to abide by the church’s teachings in my own way, to the best of my ability. Francis and I don’t appear to speak the same language. There’s a reason the Traditional Latin Mass eventually won me over. It’s an expression of the faith that gave me something the Novus Ordo and its modernist defenders never could. It centered me. It gave me purpose. It offered my spirit something it had been looking for.

I went on an extended two-decade vacation around the world and picked up a lot of spiritual and philosophical influences along the way, and they’re a part of who I am, too. It would be foolish of me to throw those experiences away. Paragraph 843 of the CCC makes perfect sense to me, because I did encounter a good amount of spiritual goodness on my journey through the wilds. There’s much that I admire about Buddhism, Taoism, and the Advaita Vedanta expression of Hinduism. When I started working my way back home, Plato and Plotinus helped me put my faith in a philosophical framework, while Jung gave it a vital psychological dimension that it had lacked before. The Sacred Feminine is still a huge part of my spiritual life, too. I’m still a Catholic, but not in the same way I was when I was younger — and certainly not in the way that Francis envisions the faith.

Now, I admit that my spiritual journey has left me holding some views that don’t jibe with the official teachings of the church. So perhaps I shouldn’t throw stones when I encounter others who say and do things that don’t accurately reflect Catholic teaching. But here’s the thing: I’m not the one running an entire global church body and potentially leading millions of people astray. I’m just some random guy whose opinion will never sway anyone. If Francis wants to sow confusion among the faithful, it has consequences. That’s on him. I want no part of it.

Perversely, Francis would seem to want me to shout my unorthodox opinions to the world and live them out as a witness to how to church can, and apparently should, change and grow. His continuing “Synod on Synodailty” bears witness to the fact that he wants a church that “listens” to the people, even if the things the people say stand in opposition to the teachings and established tradition of the church. Frankly, I’m kind of tired of a church that focuses so much on “listening.” How about a church that takes a stand for a change? Is it so much to ask to have a church that stops accommodating and actually stands for something? The church isn’t supposed to revolve around me and what I want. Yet that’s precisely what the church has been doing for sixty years now: centering itself not on the will of God but on the whims of the people in the pews. The results have been disastrous. And Francis, by all appearances, seems to want more of it.

I have Francis Fatigue. I think a lot of Catholics do. I can’t be alone in yearning for a leader who professes orthodoxy, who doesn’t need popesplainers to constantly do damage control, and who understands that maybe this me-first experiment the church has been undertaking for more than half a century now hasn’t borne good fruit. All it does is appeal to the ego. It turns every parishioner into his own pope. There’s no humility to be found going down that road. Experience has taught me that. And that’s where Francis and I are very different people.

His modernist views don’t offer me much.

Traditional Catholicism, on the other hand, does.

Sunday, December 3, 2023

Christmas Is Mary's Season, Too

Image from the film The Christ Child: A Nativity Story.

December has arrived, and with it the beginning of another Advent season. 

I wasn't sure I was going to observe Advent this year, but we have an established family tradition of loading up an Advent calendar with goodies for my daughter, and I wasn't about to deprive her of the fun and anticipation of opening up a new present every morning. Then I saw the Advent wreath in the basement that my wife made for me a few years ago, along with the new Advent candles I'd bought. 

So I thought, why not? 

As I discussed in my 50,000-word blog series, while my spiritual mindset leans toward pagan thought these days, and specifically in Anglo-Saxon mythology, there's no reason I can't incorporate other traditions into my practice if I want to. One driving tenet of my Middangeardweg is that if J.RR. Tolkien, the architect of my favorite fictional universe, found inspiration and meaning in something, then there's no reason I can't as well. I see Tolkien as a tree-hugging, mythology-loving Catholic with a pagan heart, and I'm really not too far removed from that way of seeing things, which is a big part of the reason I take so much inspiration from him. I might even eventually find myself going to a Latin Mass sometime, the same Mass that Tolkien loved, to immerse myself in the peace and beauty and tradition and familiarity, even if not at all for the theology. The pursuit of goodness, truth, and beauty is, after all, Platonic just as much as it is Catholic. And Plato was, of course, a pagan. Thus, when evangelicals complain that Catholicism is too pagan, the only thing I quibble with is the "too" part. The saints are like the localized and specialized demigods of old, the transubstantiation of the bread and wine ranks up there with the highest of magic, and Mary is a goddess figure to all who can see past the church's limiting dogma. She literally stood in for the goddesses that were displaced as Christianity spread into pagan strongholds.

Which brings me to my point. 

As I've said many times here, Mary is my spiritual mother. She has been ever since I was a little kid. As far away as I've ever gotten from my Catholic roots, she's always been there, the sole constant on a lifelong spiritual path that has taken me around the world and then some. To me, she is the human face of Sophia, the Wisdom of God, which Christians tend to call the Holy Spirit. She is that every bit as much as Jesus is considered the human face of the Father. They are a spiritual yin and yang. One shows us how to live an ethical life marked with love and compassion, such that we might find that the Kingdom of God is within us; and the other shows us the power of grace and humility as a tool for finding a connection to divine wisdom, much as Tolkien reminds us that the power to undo the greatest of evils sometimes comes from the smallest and humblest, from the unlikeliest and most counterintuitive of people and places. The upside-down appeal of the Christian story is that everyone expected a high and mighty king who would set the world right through force and power, and instead this king came into the world as the lowest of the low, a child born anonymously in a smelly stable to a Jewish girl of no special importance to anybody but her immediate friends and family. 

Christmas is the one time of year when even the most evangelical of Christians are forced to acknowledge Mary's existence. Even so, to many of them, she was just a flowerpot, a vessel chosen at random to do the necessary work of birthing the child who was the Main Event. Mary, in their minds, was simply a means to an end. She did her job, and with that done, she fades into the background, no longer needed, irrelevant.

But what if that attitude is just centuries of patriarchal religion talking? What if Mary actually meant far more to the Christmas story -- and the Christian story? I recently saw on an online forum someone referencing a book that asked a pointed question: 

What if the central story of Christianity was not a man dying on a cross but a woman giving birth? 

That changes everything, doesn't it? It means Mary is no longer peripheral to the story but absolutely essential to it. Just as the Great Mother Tao gives birth to all that exists, so all women reflect its life-giving power in birthing us all into the world. Without women, human life would cease. Likewise, without Mary, there is no Jesus. That ought to count for something. 

And for those who see the connections between Mary, Sophia, and Spirit, it does. This is the secret of the Christian story hiding in plain sight. The early church fathers tell us that Jesus refers in the lost Gospel of the Hebrews to "my mother the Holy Spirit." Early Christian groups, notably those in the Syriac tradition, thought of the Holy Spirit as a feminine power and presence. Marian feast days on the Catholic liturgical calendar use passages from the Old Testament that point to Sophia, drawing parallels between the two figures. Sophia, the one who tells us she was by the Father's side during the Creation, was also once regarded in early Christian circles as the Holy Spirit. Meanwhile, the great martyred saint Maximilian Kolbe referred to Mary as a "quasi-incarnation of the Holy Spirit," and the pre-Vatican II church was often criticized for handing over the role of the Spirit to Mary. As I always say, there was a good reason for that, and not something the church should have so cavalierly abandoned. For when it did, it severed an important connection to the Sacred Feminine and reinforced a view of an all-male Trinity that left no place for the nurturing and life-giving feminine, save for subordination. That has had real-world consequences for women, and it has deprived men and women alike of something our world desperately needs. 

It needs a loving and caring Mother. A Comforter, as Jesus notably calls the Holy Spirit that he tells the apostles will be sent from on high after he departs. 

Catholic and Orthodox Christians have been reporting miraculous appearances of the Virgin Mary on Earth for 2,000 years now. She almost always comes bearing a message of peace and reassurance and the importance of perseverance and faith. It's almost as if she's filling the role of... a comforter

As I say, the truth of the matter is hiding in plain sight for everyone to see.

Whether you take this literally or metaphorically, the same basic truth remains: Mary is here with us and has never left. And the story of Christianity began with her. 

Christmas is Mary's season, too. And that, as Gandalf would say, is an encouraging thought.

May we bear that perspective in mind as the Advent season unfolds.

Tuesday, November 21, 2023

Connection Overload

Public domain.

So it turns out that I'm related to 42 of the 45 men who have been President of the United States, and I'm indirectly related to the other three through blood connections to their descendants. I'm also related to most of the First Ladies. 

Apparently, this is not terribly unusual for people who can trace their ancestors back to the days of the first New England settlers -- which I can, as it turns out. In fact, I'm also a direct descendant of Myles Standish; he's my 12th great-grandfather. So I guess my people were the Mayflower people. I appear to be related to at least a dozen of the passengers. 

I found all this out because my foray into Anglo-Saxon lore got me thinking about my roots, which led me to open my old FamilySearch account and comb through the branches of my family tree. Most of all, I just wanted to know: Where did I come from? I have a troubled relationship with most of my existing family, and that often leaves me feeling alienated. And I knew next to nothing about my dad's side of the family, because I never had much contact with any of them, having been raised by my maternal grandparents. Yet I wouldn't be here if not for all of my ancestors, both the good ones and the bad ones. So I decided to try to at least get familiar with some of the names of the people who made my existence possible. 

And that got me to thinking about the lives they might have lived. Many of those who came before me probably had hard lives and had to make lots of personal sacrifices for their loved ones. Some were no doubt very brave, like those who sailed across the sea to make a new life in an unknown and untamed land. Others were just ordinary folks just trying to get by. But the sum total of all their lives led to me, this weird guy from the American Midwest who also wants the best for his family but has to struggle daily against his own body to keep going for another day. Will somebody see my name on an ancestry list hundreds of years from now and wonder what my life was like, much as I've done with the names I've encountered? Like good old Hezekiah Rush, my great-great-great-great-great-great-great grandfather, christened in 1685 in jolly old England, or Keziah Wetherbee, my great-great-great-great-great-great grandmother, who possesses one of the greatest names I've ever heard? 

I should state that I'm well aware of the limitations of FamilySearch. It's a free site, and you get what you pay for. The ancestral connections are probably not vetted as well as they might be on other sites with premium plans. But if you just want to get a good general sense of your family background, FamilySearch isn't such a bad place to start. The Mormons have done an exemplary job in creating a wonderfully collaborative site and helping people preserve family histories and discover new connections. But before I run off and apply for membership in The Mayflower Society, I'm probably going to dig a little deeper so I can verify the links that other people have created on FamilySearch. I'm a trust-but-verify kind of guy that way. 

In any event, I trust that most of the information on FamilySearch is generally right. There might be an ancestor attached to the wrong person on a family tree here or there, or someone for whom very little documentation even exists. But I think the site probably gets the general pattern of things right. In my case, if I were related to one or two U.S. presidents, I'd probably take the connections with a grain of salt and wonder if somebody got something wrong. But when I end up related to 42 of them? Well, they can't all be wrong, and the pattern suggests that there must be something fairly reliable about all these ancestral connections that keep pointing to the same places. In my case, the vast majority of my presidential connections come through a couple of lineages on my dad's side -- which is also the side that takes me all the way back to Myles Standish and the Mayflower crew. So yeah, it just seems that I've tapped into a rich ancestral vein over there. 

For fun, I'm going to list my presidential links here, as well as those to the First Ladies where they exist. Some of these were hard to sort out, because FamilySearch will give you two different points of relationship reference if one person who's a distant cousin happens to have married one of your other distant cousins -- which, as it turns out, happens quite a lot. That's not as skeevy as it sounds when you think about just how genetically distant you are even from, say, a third cousin. Heck, you might not even have been aware you were related at all, until you start looking through family trees or you do one of those spit tests to analyze your DNA. And then you'd find that you share only 3.125% of your DNA with that third cousin. 

Also keep in mind that in the Old Days, most people never traveled more than a few miles from where they were born and raised. Which means they grew up around a lot of cousins. Which means that cousins got married to cousins. It happened. Same for the old royal bloodlines, where there's a lot of interfamilial inbreeding by choice, to keep the lines pure and unsullied.

Anyway, on with the presidential list. Hail to the chief, and all that.

1. George Washington: my fifth cousin nine times removed, on my dad's side.

Martha Washington: my third cousin 10 times removed, on my mom's side.

2. John Adams: my sixth cousin eight times removed, on my dad's side.

Abigail Adams: my fourth cousin eight times removed, on my dad's side.

3. Thomas Jefferson: my seventh cousin 10 times removed, on my dad's side.

Martha Jefferson: my third cousin nine times removed on my dad's side.

4. James Madison: my sixth cousin eight times removed, on my dad's side.

Dolley Madison: my fourth cousin eight times removed, on my mom's side.

5. James Monroe: my fourth cousin eight times removed, on my mom's side.

Elizabeth Monroe: my sixth cousin eight times removed, on my dad's side.

6. John Quincy Adams: my fifth cousin seven times removed, on my dad's side.

No apparent relation to Louisa Adams.

7. Andrew Jackson: my first cousin (!) eight times removed, on my dad's side.

No apparent relation to Rachel Jackson.

8. Martin Van Buren: No apparent relation to him or his wife, Hannah Van Buren. But -- and this is where things get interesting -- three of his children married my cousins, thus making Martin Van Buren's grandchildren my blood relatives. Specifically, his grandkids from these three of his children are my ninth cousins four times removed, seventh cousins six times removed, and 10th cousins four times removed. 

9. William Henry Harrison: my fourth cousin eight times removed, on my dad's side.

Anna Harrison: my seventh cousin seven times removed on my dad's side.

10. John Tyler: my fourth cousin seven times removed, on my mom's side.

Letitia Tyler: my fifth cousin eight times removed, on my mom's side.

Julia Tyler, his second wife, is my eighth cousin five times removed, on my mom's side.

11. James K. Polk: my fifth cousin six times removed, on my dad's side.

No apparent relation to Sarah Polk, although some of her siblings did marry my cousins.

12. Zachary Taylor: my fourth cousin nine times removed, on my dad's side.

Margaret Taylor: my fifth cousin eight times removed, on my dad's side.

13. Millard Fillmore: my sixth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Abigail Fillmore: my sixth cousin seven times removed, on my dad's side.

14. Franklin Pierce: my seventh cousin six times removed, on my mom's side.

Jane Pierce: my fifth cousin seven times removed, on my dad's side.

15. James Buchanan: no apparent relation, and since he was a bachelor, there's no way to connect him through a spouse. However, three of his sisters married my cousins (two on my dad's side and one on my mom's), making James Buchanan's nieces and nephews through these lines my blood relatives. They are my fifth cousins eight times removed, eighth cousins four times removed, and seventh cousins six times removed.

16. Abraham Lincoln: my seventh cousin six times removed, on my dad's side.

Mary Todd Lincoln: my ninth cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

17. Andrew Johnson: my ninth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Eliza Johnson: my eighth cousin six times removed, on my dad's side.

18. Ulysses Grant: my sixth cousin seven times removed, on my dad's side. 

Julia Grant: my eighth cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

19. Rutherford Hayes: my eighth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Lucy Hayes: my eighth cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

20. James Garfield: my seventh cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Lucretia Garfield: my sixth cousin six times removed, on my dad's side. 

21. Chester Arthur, for whom my maternal great-grandfather was named: my eighth cousin six times removed, on my dad's side (not my mom's, alas).

Ellen Arthur: technically never a First Lady, as she died before President Arthur assumed office. Still, she is my sixth cousin five times removed, on my mom's side. 

22 (and technically 24, but let's not count the same person twice): Grover Cleveland: my 11th cousin on my dad's side.

Frances Cleveland: my sixth cousin four times removed, on my dad's side.

23. Benjamin Harrison: my sixth cousin six times removed, on my dad's side.

Mary Harrison: my sixth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

24. William McKinley: my seventh cousin five times removed, on my mom's side.

Ida McKinley: my 10th cousin twice removed, on my dad's side.

25. Teddy Roosevelt: my eighth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Alice Roosevelt: my seventh cousin four times removed, on my dad's side.

26. William Howard Taft: my seventh cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Nellie Taft: my 11th cousin once removed, on my dad's side.

27. Woodrow Wilson: my eighth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Edith Wilson: my seventh cousin four times removed, on my mom's side.

28. Warren Harding: my seventh cousin four times removed, on my mom's side.

Florence Harding: my 11th cousin once removed, on my dad's side.

29. Calvin Coolidge: my seventh cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

Grace Anna Coolidge: my seventh cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

30. Herbert Hoover: my 10th cousin twice removed, on my dad's side.

Lou Henry Hoover: my ninth cousin twice removed, on my dad's side. 

31. Franklin Roosevelt: my sixth cousin six times removed, on my dad's side.

Eleanor Roosevelt: my eighth cousin three times removed, on my mom's side.

32. Harry Truman: my eighth cousin four times removed, on my mom's side.

Bess Truman: my 10th cousin once removed on my dad's side.

33. Dwight Eisenhower: my sixth cousin five times removed, on my dad's side.

Mamie Eisenhower: my 10th cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

34. John Kennedy: my ninth cousin four times removed, on my dad's side.

Jackie Kennedy: my 11th cousin three times removed, on my mom's side.

35.  Lyndon Johnson: my seventh cousin twice removed, on my mom's side.

Lady Bird Johnson: my seventh cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

36. Richard Nixon: my seventh cousin three times removed, on my mom's side.

No apparent relation to Pat Nixon, but her brother did marry my eighth cousin three times removed on my dad's side.

37. Gerald Ford: my eighth cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

Betty Ford: my 11th cousin twice removed, on my dad's side.

38. Jimmy Carter: my 12th cousin, on my dad's side. It's harder to piece together connections for people still living, because they're generally not publicly listed on the genealogy sites for privacy reasons. However, their deceased relatives are listed, and in this case I was able to see that Jimmy Carter's father, James Sr., was my 11th cousin once removed, and James Sr.'s mother, Nina Carter, was my 10th cousin twice removed. From there it's a simple matter of doing the generational math. 

Rosalynn Carter: my 10th cousin once removed, on my dad's side.

39. Ronald Reagan: my 10th cousin twice removed, on my mom's side.

Nancy Reagan: my 10th cousin once removed, on my dad's side. That makes Patti Davis and Ron Reagan either my 11th cousins or my 11th cousins once removed, depending on whether you count through Ronald or Nancy.

Although she was never a First Lady, Jane Wyman was my eighth cousin three times removed on my dad's side.

40. George Bush: my ninth cousin three times removed, on my dad's side.

Barbara Bush: my ninth cousin twice removed, on my dad's side.

41. Bill Clinton: my seventh cousin five times removed on my dad's side, counting from Bill Clinton's dad, but also my 10th cousin once removed on my dad's side, counting from Bill Clinton's mom. Both of his parents were my cousins.

Hillary Clinton: my 14th cousin, on my dad's side, based on available information for her mother and grandmother. 

42. George W. Bush: my 10th cousin on my dad's side, twice removed through GWB's dad and once removed through GWB's mom, since they're also both my cousins.

Laura Bush: my eighth cousin twice removed, on my mom's side, based on available information for her father and grandfather. 

43. Barack Obama: my ninth cousin once removed on my dad's side. His mom, Stanley Ann Dunham, is my ninth cousin. Her mom is my eighth cousin once removed, and her mom is my seventh cousin twice removed. So I just calculated forward. 

No apparent relation to Michelle Obama.

44. Donald Trump: only the third president to whom I couldn't trace a direct lineage. But his brother, Fred Trump Jr., did marry my 10th cousin twice removed on my dad's side, Linda Lea Clapp. Her dad is listed as my ninth cousin three times removed. That means Mary Trump and Fred Trump III, The Donald's niece and nephew, are my 11th cousins once removed. 

Likewise, Marla Maples, Trump's second wife, is my seventh cousin once removed on my dad's side, based on her dad's listed relationship to me as my sixth cousin twice removed. That means Tiffany Ariana Trump, Marla Maples' daughter with DJT, is my eighth cousin.

I couldn't find any connection to Ivana or Melania Trump.

45. Joe Biden: my 11th cousin three times removed on my dad's side, based on what I could find about his parents and grandparents. 

Jill Biden: my 12th cousin once removed on my dad's side, based on what I could find about her mother's family tree.

And there you have it. It ultimately counts for nothing besides bragging rights, but it's kind of fun to see the connections and look back through the family trees. Most of the ancestors I have in common with these historical figures go back into the 16th, 17th, and 18th centuries, and I guess I just ended up with a lucky roll of the genealogical dice that my ancestors were early settlers in New England. There's some Scottish and English nobility mixed in there as well if I dig further back, and that's also a bonus because it means better recordkeeping and preservation, as opposed to whatever spotty information may have survived, or was even written down in the first place, for children of the common folk. 

I spent a couple of nights clicking through links and taking notes to collect all the presidential information. I could go even deeper, and I probably will when I have the time. But at the outset, all I wanted to do was satisfy my curiosity once I began to see some links between me and the earliest Americans. 

It actually all started when I was trying to see if I could discover a link between me and Dr. Benjamin Rush, one of the signers of the Declaration of Independence. My last name is Rush, by way of being adopted by my maternal grandparents of that name, and my Great-Grandpa Rush often told us that we were related to the famous Pennsylvania physician. Well, my younger cousin (my niece by way of my adoption -- terms get weird when you're adopted within the family) did some family-tree research a few years ago and found out that our particular line of Rushes came not from England, as Dr. Benjamin Rush's did, but from Germany, where our last name was spelled Rusch. That meant a link to the doctor was unlikely. And sure enough, I've been unable to establish one.

What I did find, though, was that Dr. Rush's wife, Julia Stockton, is related to me. She's my 13th cousin -- on my dad's side, as in the not-Rush side. Well, how about that? Even funnier is that the only English Rushes I've found in my family tree -- the aforementioned Hezekiah Rush among them -- are also on my dad's not-Rush side. Crazy. 

But even though I can't claim Dr. Rush as an ancestor, my blood connection to his wife means that his children are my relatives -- my 13th cousins once removed. And that counts for something. 

And in any event, I got some decent consolation prizes for not being related to old Doctor Ben. There were many more great men at the Continental Congress in that summer of 1776 to whom I can claim a connection. In total, and if the data is accurate, I'm related to 34 of the 56 signers -- just, ironically, not the guy who shares my last name. Thomas Jefferson and John Adams are, of course, two of the signers I'm related to. Then there's John Hancock, my fifth cousin eight times removed on my dad's side. And the icing on the cake for me is that I get to claim a blood connection to one of the greatest Americans of them all, Benjamin Franklin. He's my third cousin 11 times removed, also on my dad's side. His great-great-grandfather, Thomas Franklin, is my 13th great-grandfather. Learning about that connection really made my day.

As you can imagine, I kind of got obsessed with wanting to see what other connections I could make. If all these famous people were tied to me by blood, who else was? FamilySearch offered some suggestions for names I could investigate, and others I tried out on my own. And no matter which path I went down, it seemed as if every almost every person whose name I entered -- not every single one, in fairness, but definitely the vast majority -- ended up being some kind of distant relation. 

Henry David Thoreau? Yep. Fifth cousin seven times removed on my dad's side.

Walt Whitman? Eleventh cousin, dad's side.

Lewis Carroll? Eighth cousin six times removed, dad's side.

Edgar Allan Poe? Sixth cousin six times removed, mom's side.

Mark Twain? Seventh cousin five times removed, dad's side.

Herman Melville? Fifth cousin seven times removed, dad's side.

Ralph Waldo Emerson? Tenth cousin twice removed, dad's side.

You can see where my interests lie. The more literary connections I can make, the happier I am.

I dipped my toe into the music scene:

Janis Joplin: Ninth cousin once removed, dad's side.

Gordon Lightfoot: Thirteenth cousin once removed, dad's side.

How about some of my personal heroes? Dorothy Day and Ammon Hennacy, the dynamic duo of Catholic Worker fame, perhaps?

Dorothy Day: Eighth cousin four times removed, dad's side.

Ammon Hennacy: Tenth cousin four times removed, mom's side. 

But it didn't end there. These were some of FamilySearch's suggestions: 

Neil Armstrong, first man on the moon: Tenth cousin four times removed, mom's side.

Babe Ruth: Seventh cousin five times removed, mom's side.

Gordie Howe: Ninth cousin three times removed, dad's side. (My Red Wings fan of a wife will love this one.)

Samuel F.B. Morse: ... . ...- . -. - .... / -.-. --- ..- ... .. -. / ..-. --- ..- .-. / - .. -- . ... / .-. . -- --- ...- . -.. --..-- / -.. .- -.. .----. ... / ... .. -.. . .-.-.-

George Harrison: Tenth cousin twice removed, dad's side. A Beatle relative!

Lucille Ball: Eighth cousin three times removed, dad's side.

Elvis (are you kidding me?): Eighth cousin twice removed, dad's side.

Princess Diana: Eleventh cousin once removed, mom's side.

It went on and on. George Orwell, Aldous Huxley, Isaac Newton, Charles Darwin, Johnny Cash, Norman Rockwell, Oliver Cromwell, Amelia Earhart, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Susan B. Anthony, Winston Churchill, Queen Elizabeth II, and many more.

And then came the absolute jaw-dropper, for me, anyway: 

Marilyn Monroe. 

Eighth cousin three times removed, dad's side.

I'll never look at her the same way again. 

At this point, I was getting seriously creeped out to so suddenly learn that I'm apparently related to all these well-known people. With some trepidation, I shifted to people who've touched my life personally. The same thing happened.

The husband and wife who built the stately 19th-century house that I grew up in on the Michigan prairie -- guess what? I'm related to both of them. Levi Beckwith Jr. is my fifth cousin seven times removed on my mom's side, and his wife, Lucy Markham, is my seventh cousin four times removed on my dad's side. Their families settled in colonial America and migrated westward, leaving a connection to me along the way. And my family eventually moved into their house, completing the circle.

And then, finally, there's the name that I entered just for fun, not really expecting to get a hit. Surely, if my best childhood friend and I were related, I would have known. You could have knocked me over with a feather when his grandma showed up on my family tree. She was our next-door neighbor when I was a kid. And yet somehow, neither one of us ever had any idea when we were growing up together that we were actually eighth cousins. I'm related to my first best friend in life through my mom's side.

At that point, I had to stop plugging in names and step away. It was all getting to be too much. Everything I thought I knew was being turned upside-down. 

I haven't talked in depth to anyone who does genealogical research, so I don't have a good sense for how common it is to find that you're related to pretty much everybody you can think of. Maybe it's my colonial ancestry that gives me such an abundance of connections. But even going back before that time, into the mists of history, I was unearthing royal lineages in places as far-flung as Norway, Sweden, and Denmark. Supposedly, I even descend from the Merovingian line, through King Clovis I himself. But I definitely need to do far more in-depth research before I'll believe that. Even the smallest error that could creep in after 1,500 years of recordkeeping could derail the entire connection. 

Still, the point remains that finding all these significant connections felt overwhelming to me. I don't really know what to do with the information. 

Granted, the further you travel back in time, the greater chance you have of discovering even a tenuous connection to somebody. Go back far enough, and we're all related. I recently read with interest an article making the case that within a given ethnic group, everybody is likely to be no more distant than a 15th cousin, and that the majority of humans are at most 50th cousins to each other. So if I don't appear to be related to Dr. Benjamin Rush, it's probably only because FamilySearch stops calculating lineages for you at the 15th generation. If I dug in and researched the old-fashioned way -- by tracking down physical documents in obscure dusty archives and the like -- chances are I'd eventually find some kind of connection. 

When you look at it that way, all these "famous" connections start to feel a lot less special. The relationships are ultimately inevitable. It just becomes a question of tracking down the missing puzzle pieces and then finding where they fit. 

Still, it is kind of neat, in a bragging-rights kind of way, to find a connection to you that is, in a big-picture sense, still pretty intimate and fairly unlikely. Marilyn Monroe and I, as eighth cousins, share a common grandparent out of a pool of just 512 human beings. That's not a whole lot in the grand scheme. 

On the other hand, I only make a big deal out of my connection to her because I've always found Marilyn to be one of the most beautiful creatures to ever walk the face of the earth. Gerald Ford is also my eighth cousin three times removed, just like Marilyn, and while that's interesting to me, I have to admit that I don't really care that I'm related to a clumsy guy with a receding hairline who only became president because his boss and the guy he replaced were crooks.

Then there's Joanne Emerson. Born in 1923, and at some point in her life lived in Nebraska. That's all I know about her, and it's probably all I ever will know. Chances are she was never known outside of the same circle of close friends and relatives that we all have as we journey through life. I just happened to find her by following a random branch on my FamilySearch tree. She's also my eighth cousin three times removed. I could have followed a different branch and found a completely different person to make the same point. 

And the point is that Marilyn Monroe, Gerald Ford, and Joanne Emerson from Nebraska are all my eighth cousins three times removed. They're all people of equal relation to me. So why don't I assign equal importance to them in my personal headspace? Because in the end, it's all subjective. It just boils down to what things you choose to care about and give your attention to. And besides, it's not like having famous relatives is something you chose. You just happen to have some people on your family tree that did stuff that people outside of your family tree know about. That's it. Sure, it's kind of fun to go around saying, "Hey, I'm related to so-and-so," but being proud of your blood connections, as if it somehow makes you a better person, is kind of like being proud of your ethnicity. It's something you have no control over. You never had any say in the matter. It's just the way things shook out.   

I guess if I take something constructive away from all these fascinating discoveries, it's that it really is a small world when you get down to it. When two people in medieval England decided to have a baby, it may not have seemed significant at the time to anyone but them and their immediate family. But the web of Wyrd (remember we talked about that?) reminds us that the smallest ripple in one place affects everything else in the web, even if we can barely perceive it at the moment. Every action we take, every choice we make, sends the web in a new direction, until even more cumulative effects send it vibrating toward yet another destination. And when that English couple had a baby 500 years ago, they set a ripple in motion that resulted in me. If any of their descendants in between them and me had made a different life choice, I wouldn't be here writing this. 

That's extremely humbling to me, and it fills me with gratitude -- because even though my life is pretty hard some days, I'm still grateful that I'm here and I get to experience life for a brief flash of 60 or 70 or 80 years on this planet, before I have to say goodbye and leave my name behind for some future genealogically minded descendant to discover.  

I can only hope that person will look at my name with as much wonder and curiosity as I did when I found Keziah Wetherbee and wondered what she was like. Hopefully we can leave behind good stories that our descendants can attach to those names. 

That's our true legacy.